Fiona - I could have written your story about your DD myself. It was exactly the same with my DD. I expressed for 8 weeks, have v flat nipples, she was v jaundiced.....it goes on.....

Anyway I am still BF DS and he is 13.5 months old. It can be done! I just made sure I was really prepared this time. I joined the ABA, hooked up a LC while I was still pg, had nipple shields on standy if I needed them, and read up on everything I could. When I had DS every feed I would buzz for someone to come and check attachment. I kept saying 'Yes this is my second child, but I couldn't BF my DD and I really want to BF this time.' You really have to keep saying it because I think that when you are a second time mum, a lot of the time they think you know it all already - not true! I said I didn't want to leave hospital until he was BF (yeah it was public but a FANTASTIC hospital - heaps better than the private one I had dd in). Just keep at it and make sure you have some support to help with DD when the baby comes so you can focus on feeding in the first few weeks too.

Good luck. It can happen. I never thought I'd be feeding still and now he won't wean LOL!