But in his defense, and i'm not saying don't b/f, be it about everything in your marriage, there is some truth in what he was trying to allude to - there is something about putting ourselves out there and working on giving to the other (and they should give to you and not think about themselves in return, nothing about only females), and that keeping your marriage/partnership strong during those difficult first years of a babies life when you are just oh so tired constantly is important. If you focus solely on your baby, or use looking after your baby (or your job) as an excuse to neglect working on your marriage, in the end it won't be great for everyone.

Marriage isn't easy and it takes constant work (as i continually find out!)
this is very true - and if the Rabbi had used his position to say this without alienating everyone, he might have actually had some valid points

i agree that you need to work hard at keeping your relationship on track - but the basis of your relationship NEEDS to be about more than the physical - if it's not, then your relationship is bound to fail when life - be it children, age, illness or other stress - catches up with you.

FWIW, i told DH about this article - he rolled his eyes, said some "not so kind" things about the author, and said anyone who thinks that bf or childbirth makes their partner less attractive they have issues