thanks everyone, yes my sis is a darling woman. she says she is actually ready to finish BFing which i thought she would be sad about but my sister is ever practical and moving on to the next thing for her.
sush, thanks hun, i think you are right and we need to get things happening on the practical front long before we actually get down to it. apparently it isn't too difficult for her (that is the important aspect to having a donor - they should be the one least inconvenienced) it will all take place up in mackay Qld near where they live, if that is what she wants to do.

starbright, i dont know much about getting AF while BFing. she says she keeps expecting to get it with all the PMS symptoms as well but nothing happens. a friend of mine fell pg with twins while BFing and didn't even know she was preg as she never had an AF. i guess i just dont know what happens with AF when you are BFing or stopping BFing.