I agree with Sushee. If having the MCHN or GP tell them directly what to give bub & what not to give bub doesn't work, then it's a bit of a pickle, coz it sounds like they'll just go ahead and do whatever they want.

I guess if you're willing to "compromise" for the sake of peace.. you could pre-prepare a heap of baby food that you're happy with, or say which fresh fruit you're happy with (I'd be happy with banana personally). Have pureed veges & fruit (frozen) ready to go if they think she's hungry. Don't have any empty bottles around the house - have them full and ready to go.. either with water or EBM (preferably EBM).

Good luck.