I voted lack of continuity of care because what was a huge help to me was having the same midwife who had seen me throughout preg. and birth, do home visits for 5 weeks post-natally ... I found it very difficult establishing breastfeeding, it was PAINFUL, got mastitis, my son wanted feeding every 2 hours ... but having someone to answer my questions, watch me feed (without me having to get out of PJs or travel), tell me what a good job I was doing, was a godsend. She was also able to deflect the well meaning advice of my mother and MIL, neither of whom had breastfeed for very long or very successfully.
Close 2nd would be lack of education ... there's loads of information out there but it's very simplistic and none of it talks about how painful it can be. I kept remembering during 3 months of pain a midwife friend with 3 children who said to me just before the birth, "you do know breastfeeding is painful to begin with don't you?". The fact that a 'professional' who had also done it three times experienced the same thing was a comfort. I got so frustrated when I read though that if baby is attached correctly it won't hurt - now that's true, but not at the start when I had grazes and cracks - they needed to heel before it would not be painful. I used to give up trying to reattach after 10 to 15 minutes (screaming baby, tired mother ... it was just easier to deal with the pain - let's face it, it was less painful than childbirth!). Have stuck with it and my boy is now 10 months old and I intend to keep going until he's ready to wean (tho will be encouraging him from 12 months I think). Being honest, I have never enjoyed breastfeeding and have only done it because I know it's good for my son (and it's easier than having to take sterilised water and formula with me whenever I go anywhere). I am really looking forward to not having "working boobies" anymore!




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