Janey, it took me nearly 5 weeks to stop making a visible wince whenever I realised DS was hungry. I had the associated vasospasm (psychological response becoming physiological and PAINFUL) until about week 9 or 10 before I realised it had gone all together. If you can make it past this, there is every reason to believe that you will come to a point where you will say to yourself 'THIS is what it's all about!'. What got me through, as Tanby says, was drilling into myself that the benefit was way beyond myself and that it was about the ultimate wellbeing of my child - coupled with a decision to have faith in what other nursing mothers (friends, who had their initial problems, too) around me were saying, and that was "it WILL come together and you won't look back". When mummies around you give you negative stories, ignore them, but when they are giving you something positive, I've learned to grab at those snippets because they get you through, and they are based on truth But I hear you, for me, at 4 weeks things were still horrendous (he had his tongue tie snipped at 4 weeks, but it doesn't magically fix it instantly...he needed to relearn how to suck with his new tongue!), and it was all I could do to remain positive through eyes spililng out tears and apologising profusely to DS. In hindsight, hopefully, you will see that 4 weeks, 6 weeks, even 12 weeks is a blip on the timescale and you WILL get through this ETA: sorry, meant to say that I also received conflicting advice, about attachment, and an LC in the MCHN system got me through. I just cannot understand why a policy would be upheld when it is adversely affecting the health of you and your child. Our 'system' has so far to go.