Here's something someone I respect a lot taught me.
Put a pen in front of you. Look at it. Now try to pick it up. Another wise person said "Do or do not, there is no 'try'". The first person is a life coach and pschology lecturer and PhD and AIS mentor (and breastfeeder!), the second is Yoda - fictional character, and how many of us didn't get hit hard by his tenet?
Contrary to the lovely fionas, I would say making a decision now WILL make it easier for you to travel the next weeks ahead, knowing which path you'll take and making the appropriate preparations to make it happen Being indecisive until the birth will set up the scenario for being pushed into a corner that isn't breastfeeding-friendly. If you make up you mind now, everyone around you will know where you stand and can either say NOW whether they will support you in your quest or whether they won't. And you can then prepare for that by seeking out better support - your local ABA group.
It's fair to warn you, when your partner does not support breastfeeding, success rates are significantly lowered.
Yes, he took part in that aspect of your babies' lives in the past and that's great. The thing is, it's really quite ok for the mummy to be the only one needed for the feeding part of things. It's what we're designed for (not just feeding, but we're hormonally primed to be the primary caregiver for ages - it's just how nature made us!), and there are plenty of other ways for dads to be involved. Bathing, getting up at night for you, nappy changes, playing are all just as important interactions that needn't diminish your body's normal hormonal transfer (when you allow that transfer to happen you'll find the hormones regulating your emotional state benefit - less incidence of PND).
The 'breast is best' message isn't being pumped out by the ABA anymore. It's not the message they want people to take away. The fact that it is the NORMAL and base method for feeding human babies means that anything else is never going to be as good, and if you're in a position to give that start, then your babies are not at a disadvantage. As with anything, it doesn't mean ALL kids will be suffering bags of sickness! It means that the chances of developing problems are higher. Not only that, you won't even know the full effects of formula feeding until much later, probably when your kids are leaving home or more. The measure of health isn't just the first 16 years of life, and so many people ignore this.
This is not to scare you, just to give you the bigger picture while you're making a decision.
If this is something you want to do then just do it. It is not selfish. In fact, breastfeeding is one of the most selfless things you'll ever do! Don't let a man's ego interfere with the ONE thing you were absolutely designed to do and actually have a right to make a go of. If it doesn't work, then it's just so fabulous to know that DH will be there to help you. That's such a great safety blanket. Not the bottles, but his help to formula feed your baby Tell him it's not the equipment, it's the knowing what to do, and he has that now.
I still recommend an LC who sees you BOTH in your home. They have the highest and best=practice lactation training and education. There are threads here on BB about LC's.
You will enjoy the rest of the pregnancy and preparations better if you get yourself to an ABA breastfeeding class and commit to starting off with breastfeeding. Being up in the air cannot be fun.
And yes, we are going to be here!