Yep in hinesight i would have liked to wean my DS1 off night feeds, because in the first couple of months he was waking 3-4 times wanting to feed as well as the baby! i think because he stopped eating food and so was wanting more milk. Only in the past few weeks has my toddler started to only wake once a night for a feed (even this exhausts me), which is better but still hard. I can't go through the stress of night weaning him now as i need what sleep and peace i can get, but in hinesight its something that would have made things easier now.

Lee another thing to consider - my DS has never liked cows milk, he just won't drink it. I too wanted him to have a substitute so when he was around 18 months i introduced rice milk in a cup just as an alternative. He'd still BF frequently but he quite liked the drinking out of a cup factor I later switched him to oat milk as its lower carbs, more nutritious. Though the two are interchangeable as they taste the same. Ironically though since the baby was born he won't take ANY other liquid except breastmilk, not even water, juice etc. Which is hard at times, and this is when the juggling act comes in to play as i try to feed them both at the same time. So one thing which would be helpful to practice, is with a doll and your toddler, just play around with positions as to how you can do them both if you have to. Its a bit easier now that the baby is 3 months and not so fragile!