Sammy, hang in there chick, you're doing a fab job We've been going through the same thing and it's slowly getting better. At first DS acted up a lot whenever I sat down to feed DD. He still does sometimes, but I think I am becoming more aware of being prepared for it. ABC2 has been a lifesaver in our house too. Rather than just plonk him in front of the TV, I sit on the couch feeding DD and I chat to DS about what's happening in the show (Play School, Larry Lawnmower, etc, etc) and encourage him to get up and dance/do actions.

Otherwise, we go sit outside and I sit and feed DD while DS plays in the backyard. I still chat to him about what he's doing. Can he pick me some flowers? How about mow the lawn or dig some dirt into his wheelbarrow, etc... I find that chatting to him about what he's doing keeps him happy, he seems to respond better that mummy can be involved with him and DD at the same time.

With the snacks, I do the same as tellytubby, leave fruit easily accessible in the fridge and he has several water filled drink bottles, in the fridge, on the table etc so he can help himself.

What I found also helped me with the cluster feeding (DD was doing it twice a day as well) was as soon as DS goes down for his nap, I went and laid down on the bed with DD and let her feed feed feed. I got to have a bit of a snooze which really, really helped get through the rest of the day. DD would fall asleep and I would get up and let her finish her nap on the bed. We still do this, I'll take as much sleep as I can get!

But as hard as it is not to, try not to stress, you are doing really well