I hear you on the last bit
I loved feeding DS for so long and the relationship has been ambivalent for a while. Didn't help that I had thrush early with DD and I thought he was chomping me. Then he WAS chomping me and it was like he'd lost his technique. I was so angsty at Babu time! Sometimes I thought I'd end up punching him - very extreme for me, given how little room I had for any negative thoughts on parenthood up until that time! Now it's not so much his technique (which is good again), it's his manner and how inconsiderate he can be (which is totally developmental, I know!).
I didn't want to finish him up on a low note, either, so I'm not sure if I'm continuing in the hope that there's a turnaround in his attitude to asking before we finish up.
Hearing you, for sure. And I talk to others who BF for about this long, too - it helps
Hi, don't know if this has been said, so sorry if it has!
I am breastfeeding my 3.5 year old as and when he wants it and his poo is not sticky (well sometimes it is, but not all the time!). Are you sure that's the reason? Also, have you tried cloths instead of wipes? I find the wipes (in addition to giving him a sore bottom) took forever to get him cleaned up! Like about 10-20 wipes to get him clean, versus 2-4 (on a REALLY messy yucky poo) cloths.
Can't help you with the touched-out-ness, I am a freak and I savour every minute of snuggles I can get (okay maybe because I'm only having one)
There is definitely a drain on your body when you're making milk for two - even if one of them is only feeding once a day. The penny only dropped for me recently. If DS ramps up to more than one feed a day, I'm just knackered and grumpy and really snappy Wouldn't be so bad if we lived in a world that supported tandem feeding, but in this world, you get no extra concessions for BFing two, even with a partner who supports BFing!
Just a thought, if you're feeling grumpy from feeding two, are you drinking enough water and eating enough? I only feed one and i have to eat and drink quite often or I get grumpy.
I think that if you are only feeding a toddler, you are more in control. You can either feed them or say "wait until after dinner mate", and it's your call.
But I can well imagine that if I were also feeding a little one then that would be a battle - my DS would be unlikely to cooperate with "I have to wait until after dinner but that small yelping baby-thing gets to have my booboo now!".
I have a feeling that even if you wean your older ones it won't make things much easier - they will still want you and your time and your attention and to climb all over you- it just won't involve feeding......
Oh, I hear you! As you know, currently tandem feeding my princesses: 26 months and 11 weeks.
When I was pregnant DD1 cut down a lot as my milk decreased so at the end she was only having one feed a day. She has always been booby obsessed though and I didn't think she'd wean when I was pregnant.
After DD2 came along I decided to stick to one feed a day, I didn't want to increase it and be feeding all day. In the first week after DD2 was born I did give her more feeds though because I needed help with engorgement and I also wanted some special time with her and to give her comfort and reassurance with all the change that was going on. That was ok and she easily went back to having one feed again. DH was home for a month and there was lots of visitors anyway so she was busy and not that interested.
Over the last month though she has been wanting it more and more!! It's always 'Mummy, need some booby. Make me feel better!!!' I try and distract her and tell her she has booby only after dinner and sometimes that works but most of the time she cracks it and cries and says 'I need some Mummy, it makes me feel better' which really pulls on my heartstrings
Anyways I'm a bit random and sometimes I'm feeling alright and don't mind feeding her and so I let her have more which I think is a mistake. I need to be more consistent and maybe make 2 feed times that are ok with me and that she can predict like after nap and after bath or something. One feed doesn't seem to be enough because if she asks in the morning then 'after dinner' seems a loooong time away for a toddler.
She is the same and wanting to feed for ages too. I'm not sure what's with that. She never ends any of her feeds anymore, I do, I don't think she'd ever finish, lol. I do the counting to 10 thing too and then if she comes off with no fuss kiss her and praise her and tell her how proud I am, which she likes.
Anyways, I don't know the solution but I totally get you
Charlie - it's the hormones and the way the extra production has its effect, more than nutrition. Hormones are a *****! My hormones prioritise the littlest one, but are still working to accommodate the biggest one. They're probably as conflicted as I am (the hormones, that is!)..!
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