Sometimes all you can do is watch and wait and see. Unfortunately. I agree it's the medical system. I was convinced to formula top up in hospital too. Even though it didn't feel right, I still did it. There felt like there was no option. As long as she's do tuning to pump and maybe even hand express herself it will happen. Just continuing to encourage her and let her know that you have full confidence that's she can make this happen.

I don't understand how they managed to damage her either. I resent that the nurses expressed for me, when I was completely capable of doing it myself. Just because I wasn't as quick as they would have been.

You are a great friend. Just continuing to be there and support her without adding the pressure is important. Even if I'd been given different advice from friends, and I did I would have still done what they told me to. Cause it felt like I HAD to do what the professionals said. The only other thing I would suggest is to get her to call try ABA or MCH Line (if she's in Victoria) and tell the hospital staff the advice she is given from them. If she is not satisfied she could ask for the nurse manager. But it's hard to stick up for yourself when you have just given birth.