Thanks very much to all of your replies.

The last Ob I spoke to said baby can not come with the mothers into recovery. (so i think that is a policy...but there is no harm in trying?)

I wont be able to change hospitals nor hire a private midwife.

I understand if my preferences cannot go to plan, but can't blame a hormonal pregnant woman for trying!

Thanks very much for all these ideas...and Cailin I would stil love a copy if you have time