I have spent hours and hours in the last 2 1/2 years for others who may have had the same issue as me (nicked bowel) I didnt come here to this site to have a whinge, I have remained silent for all this time.
I can sit here today and accept that there are risks in any surgery and that a nicked bowel is one of those - although perhaps that should have been disucussed throughout my pre-natal period with the OBGYN - he failed to mention it because I wasnt necessarily planning on a c-section. You go to these classes and they go on about a plan etc, but dont mention that there are so many emergency c-sections - what - so they arent scaring you? jeez, if i wasnt scared then, I am totally freaking out now of going through a VBAC and being in the same positon of having a rushed c-section and potentially having some other doctor that I paid thousands of dollars to safely deliver my baby, then be too arrogant to accept that he may have made an error.
If I was more aware of what the risks were, I would have been much more forceful and demanded they commence testing, rather than accepting 3 days of agonising pain. rather than being thought of as a 'princess' who had a low pain threshold because I had a c-section.
I agree with you. I am still going ahead with my elective c-section even though I have read all these stories. Now I know what to look out for and will hope that I do not have any complications. I cannot get a vbac around my head and my baby is posterior. I do not want an emergency c/s either so an elective c/s is the way for me. Many people will disagree with this I know and maybe I will too once it is over, but this is the decision I have made. If I could magically get the baby to appear outside my uteris then I would take that option. I'm too paranoid about everything that can go wrong with the baby during a VB. Caesar here we come!
Miss H, it sounds like you are happy with the decision you have made. Good on you. It is your decision and it doesn't matter what other people think about it.
A friend of mine was in a similar situation recently. Except that for most of her pregnancy she was fighting for the right to VBaC. But in the end, she decided for a repeat elective c/s because she didn't like the chance of having anotehr emergency c/section. Because it was planned, they tried to keep her as involved as possible, she got to hold and feed her son immediately and all in all she was extremely happy with the birth of her second son. With her first, she didn't get to hold him until 3 hours after the birth and she found that quite traumatic. She also recovered much quicker after the second c/s. So things can go very smoothly. She does feel a little sad that she never got to experience a natural birth, but as i said, she is genuinely happy with how things went.
All the best with your birth.
I think you are doing the best thing to save yourself from the emergency, as I will do in future, as I think thats when things tend to go wrong. I just have to work out now what I am going to do even before i thnk about trying to conceive. I have such bad scarring all over my abdomen that they are talking of having to do a vertical c-section to avoid the other 2 scar tissue - join the dots so to speak - although may have to have laparotomy scar sniped to allow for pregnant belly, and i still dont know if my stomach muscles will cope - anyway all these things I want to get sorted before the next one, otherwise considering adoption because after not being able to bond with my son and still feel that I am jsut a care taker, that I thnk that my husband and I can cope with that, anyway, commencing proceedings against my doc for neglecting to commence testing and I am still not coping.
I wish you the best, jsut remember, if you think something is wrong it usually is, so dont worry about being difficult to the doctors.
Margery, I understand completely where you are coming from, just wanted to quickly say that, although it is true that a planned c/s is less risky than an emergency one, statistics clearly show that a VBaC is safer than a planned elective repeat c/s.
In your case, with extensive scar tissue, it might be different, though.
Saša
a little disappointed
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