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    I can't believe how nasty some of the nurses can be. I had a couple of good ones, but on the whole, it was an awful experience and I found them to be highly unsympathetic to how I was feeling, and they seemed to take advantage of the times when DH wasn't there to pounce on me and say nasty things......

    I've often thought about writing a letter of complaint, but haven't done it.



    It's pretty bad when considering that having a baby is such a huge event in your life, and when you feel traumatised by the birth, why do some of these nurses seem to not understand your feelings? Well more to the point, why can't they respect your feelings and show a little compassion? No offence to the midwives out there, some of you are wonderful and do fantastic jobs, but there are some who aren't too flash (as with all occupations I'm sure!)

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    Tootie - I don't want to make excuses for the nurses that treated you badly, but I honestly think that the lack of staff in hospitals is a major contributing factor. One of my midwives (one of the wonderful ones I had) confided in me when I could see she was flustered. She was frustrated because she had to take care of 6 woman (4 of which were c-sections) and she couldn't give them the type of care she would have liked to give. She literally said "I hate it because it makes me look like I don't care and that could not be further from the truth".
    I also questioned the midwife in special care that was looking after Gabby. She was quite rude to me at times and often ignored me when I asked a question. I was nervous and pretty clueless (hek, I had never done this before after all!!). She was walking me back up to the ward so I tried to strike up a conversation that wasn't baby related and said; "A long night, huh?". She then told me how she was pulling a double shift because special care was so flat-out. She was thoroughly exhausted. I then found that I didn't take it to heart so much when she was short with me. Later, other midwives told me that they don't have a lot of staff that work in Special Care because of how intense the work is. So, if someone is away sick, the others have to pick up the slack.
    It definitely doesn't excuse how we get treated but sometimes it's just not their fault. It's the horrid system that has nurses working stupid shifts (day shift one week, night shift the next) and having too many patients to look after at any given time. Any wonder they kind of switch off and stop caring. It sucks so much because it's the patients the suffer - esp. when we are, like you said, going through the most major event of our lives.

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    I appreciate that there is a distinct lack of staff, totally - whether you are a private or public patient, it seems to be the same.

    However, I still think that a little bit of common decency goes a very long way at such important times in our lives. There is simply no excuse for plain nastiness, which is what I experienced. A couple of the nurses who were lovely, were quite honest with me about how busy they were, but were also very caring and considerate of my needs, so I think it does also depend on the person.........

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    Sarah/Pee - I'm terrified of giving birth either way as well.! I've always wanted a vbac, and like I said, it's been scaring the beejeebies out of me thinking how I would react if this was to be an option for me one day.

    On the other hand, I'm also terrified of the c/sec. I know it will be a different experience next time, but I'm still scared. In all honesty, I think that is why I haven't pushed the issue of following up with our referral to see a specialist. That sounds terrible doesn't it! 8-[

    Nic

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    Hi Girls, thought I'd join ya! I had an emergency c-section on 21st May. It took me completely by surprise - I'd never even considered the possibility I might have to have one. Apparently my pelvis and Hannah's head were incompatible (after 19 hours of labour, and 8/nearly 9cm dilated they tell me this!)

    It's left me feeling a little bit ripped off and disappointed, but I am just glad Hannah and I both got out of the situation healthy and well. I dread to think what would have happened if we'd lived 100 years ago or so.

    I didn't get to hold her for at least an hour. Next time, I'd like to make sure I get a cuddle before then....though I was shaking like a leaf from the epidural and probably couldn't have held her before then anyway.

    I would like to try for a VBAC next time (crazy I know!) - because of the shape of my pelvis, my dr says I have a 50% chance of being able to do it next time. Not good odds really.

    Just wondering...what do they do with the placenta once they've delivered the baby via c-section? Wouldn't they have to wait for it to come away of it's own accord? Or do they cut it out? Just one of those obscure questions I've pondered since the event...

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    Yeah, you are right, Tootie. I was meant to say that aswell!

    Juliette - I have no idea about the placenta either. But now I wanna know! I imagine because the procedure is so quick, they must just cut it out. Hmm... All I know is that mine was "gritty". I only know that because it was written on the form that they stapled in my infant welfare book. Sorry to hear that you feel ripped-off for having a caesar. I didn't really mind with mine but that's because I wasn't fussed about a natural labour to begin with (because of history of still-birth in my family during natural labours). I hope that you can have a successful VBAC next time tho

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    Juliette - I know exactly what you mean by feeling ripped off and dissapointed by having a c/s, I`m fine with it now but would dearly love to have a VBAC but I don`t think thats going to be possible at all, haven`t seen my OB yet but with having CPD and big babies the two don`t go together, maybe if I had a girl she might be smaller then Matthew but then how small will the baby have to be to fit through my pelvis. In regards to the placenta, I asked Mark what happened to it (he watched everything, even saw inside the hole yuck!!!!) anyway he said my OB just pulled it out, I also remember my anaethestis (spl?) telling me before the c/s that at a certain stage he`d have to push down on the top of my uterus which he did but I can`t remember why he said he had to do that and I asked Mark and he can`t either, I have a feeling it`s to do with the placenta coming out but not sure.

    Nic - I`m like you I`m totally scared of having another c/s, I think I prefer not to know what`s involved but after having 1 well we all know what is involved now. It`s a reason why I`m unsure at this stage as to when to TTC again.

    Has anyone found that they have been windier then normal since the c/s? sorry if TMI but I have found I`m so very windy and before the c/s I was never a windy person so I`m putting it down to the c/s.

    Take Care

    Deeanne

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    Dee thats exactly right... They have to "tug" at the placenta to get it out, and they have to get it out during the c/s there is no way it can come out naturally after the baby has been taken out. So the push down on your upper abdomen & pull it out that way. Hopefully thats not TMI... if they leave any placenta in it can cause serious infection.

    I also had more wind post c/s but they expected that as well :-k dunno why they just kept asking me if I was having wind...

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    Thanks Christy, yeah it gets a bit embarrasing being asked about wind all the time, but should I still be this windy 6 weeks later 8-[

    Take Care

    Deeanne

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    Dee - yep, I was pretty windy too. I still am on occasions now but that's probably for other reasons, No one told me that it was a side-effect of the caesar but I just assumed that all my plumbling was a little weird after such major surgery.

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    Oh yes, wind! I had a lot of that too. I remember there being visitors and me distinctly trying NOT to pass wind! LOL

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    Yep girls I was the same with all the wind 8-[ And how funny is it when the nurses come around to ask you if you've passed wind yet or not. I think it's the only time in life as a female your actually encouraged to brag about your farts.


    Take care
    Trish

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    yes - extra wind here too...and only lately which is strange! How are you feeling now Dee? I feel great and did on day 4 - but am really keen to get back into exercise as I still have a little tummy!

    I found my whole c/s experience really positive. Mind you, it was an elective c/s and I wouldn't hesitate doing it again. I'm not disappointed at not having a natural birth, but I would be disappointed at not being able to breast feed (which is my current challenge...)

    I took my bandage off today so have had a good look at my scar which is soooo thin! My OB did a really good job...it is still a little hard to touch, but I guess that this is normal?

    Megan

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    Megan - even now I am still a little nervous about touching my scar. Or did you mean it is actually hard? I probably read it wrong, LOL. It's amazing how neat they make it, hey?

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    Debbie - I meant that it was actually hard (sorry if that was confusing!) I love how neat it is though.....it is still a little tender around the area, but it hasn't been 2 weeks since the c/s yet!!

    Megan

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    Thanks Deeanne and Christy re: my placenta question! I do vagely remember the ob telling me he was going to be pushing on my uterus.... Now I know why!

    That is so cool that Mark got to see the whole thing Deeanne! Tim had to sit by my head with me behind the curtain.

    As for the wind thing. I found the whole experience really weird - my digestive system went nuts. I just thought it was because everything was moving back into place owing to the uterus not being so big and in the way! I didn't realise it was a c/s thing. Ah the things you learn!

    Just wondering how many of you had stitches and how many had staples?

    I had metal staples holding my wound together. They were quite uncomfortable when I moved around and they pulled. They were painless to have removed though.

    My scar is almost healed over, except for one bit in the middle (about 1cm long) which still looks fresh, and red. I have just been putting betadine on it to prevent infection.

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    I had staples

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    Staples here too

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