thanks spice and MOM i am willing to try anything to make sure all goes as smooth as possible, i might actually make an appointment with a naturopath, v good idea!
SR: i would be finding a new DR that is very inappropriate, like spice said there are things you can do to have a VB if you want to, but if you elect to have a CS thats ok too and by no means makes you a wimp, if anything i think CS recovery is alot harder than that of a VB (if all goes to plan) you must do whats best for you and although DH input is important it is your body and only you know whats best. Good luck !