I know jack is a fair bit older than your daughter but I found when Jase went back to work at 3 weeks I was fine with showering Jack, as for proper cuddles about 5 weeks before I could have him sit on my lap for real good hugs, but he would sit on the chair beside me and snuggle in...he does weigh 16kg + which would make a difference... but I would say I was well and truly fine by the 4 week mark if he had needed picking up etc, I had to lift him into shower still and did that a 3 weeks..

anyway HTH some what good luck tomorrow