Thankyou all for your replies, you don't know how much it has helped ease my mind.

I recovered really well when I had DD1 so I think I will be ok again it is just different when you have a non-toddling toddler to care for.

DH will be home with me so I won't have to lift but I am an independant person and am so close to DD1 that I won't be able to help myself .

Thanks again... your replies are just what I needed to hear.