Hi girls I just wanted to share with you all that I really enjoyed our CS just 11 days ago. The experience was no where near as painful or scary as everyone made out. The spinal was pain free and I never felt a thing. The recovery has even been better than I expected so far. I am still taking it easy though. My bleeding even stopped after about 6 days and on day 8 I was chomping at the bit for some lovin to which we gentle DTD and wow was it great (of course we used protection, in fact there is a packet of condoms in your new mother bounty bag!). The scar is healing nicely and you car barely see it.
My milk came in about day 4/5 and by the day I came home (day 7) I was leaking like a cow and could have put Dairy Farmers out of business. JD sleeps lots during the day and gets about 4 hours of sleep each stint at night. We BF and Formula feed. Formula seems to keep him fuller longer so he gets that at the night feeds and loves his milk!
I am not having any problems bonding, I kissed him and smelled him and touched him as soon as he came out for what felt like an hour but it was more like minutes. But I fell in love and tears fell effortlessly from both my DH and I. DH got skin to skin contact until I came out of recovery so they have bonded really well and as such he and JD are mates and JD loves his dad to bits.
I am so pleased with our decision for a CS. He was a big long boy and he entered the world calmly and without any distress and I feel great for doing that for him. Now we just look forward to every day we have with him.
Anyways, just wanted to share!
P.S. I was so surprised that I was much calmer going in for the CS than I am going to teh dentist, but I really hate the dentist!
I just want to ask you a question though, and you don't have to answer this at all, but a lot of your concern was that you were told that he was going to be a HUGE big baby (my definition of HUGE is a baby over 4.5kg) and he was far from that, in fact I would call him average sized (based on my own definition), so do you feel a bit ripped off that he wasn't anywhere near as big as they thought he would be? I ask this as a legitimate question, because so many women have a c/s for this reason and I always wonder if you do feel a bit cheated kwim?
I'm super glad you made a decision that you're happy with puppies and that it all went so brilliantly. Good for you and congratulations on your little man.
Trillian,
Nope not feeling at all ripped off! He was a big baby for my size. His head was wedged very hard in my pelvis and would have most likely ended up being quiet traumatic for both of us if we birthed vaginally. I love my scar it reminds me off the birth of my son and it brings a smile to my face when I touch it and see it (not that you can really see it as it was only 2 stitches and very tidy).
I knew in my heart it was the right choice and I have not regretted it for one second nore will I ever. And the bonding thing is a myth (for me anyway). I carried him for 9 months and there fore bonded with him more during that time than the few minutes it takes for him to enter this world. Knowing he entered the world peacefully without distress makes me feel like I did the right thing for my son and not just tried to birth him vaginally for the only reason to prove something to myself or others.
My son did not have any breathing issues, and was BF straight away, it was just distressing for me when my milk took 3 days to really flow but apparently thats normal for even vaginal births. Now I can squirt people in the eye with the milk production have going.
The only really painful discomfort I had was the trapped wind that took about 5 days to clear my body, but even then it was probably at worse a 7 out of 10 (10 being unbearable). The down part is that I felt useless as my DH took charge of everything and wouldn't even let me change a nappy even though I was up and about. Very early one morning when I rang the buzzer for help changing a nappy the nurse said how come you haven't changed him, I said cause I don't know how, my DH keeps doing it and not showing me. So it was early in the morning that I could only learn these things cause he was at home. He is still a bit like that when we came home but I had a chat to him and told him that how am I going to cope when he goes back to work and I can't even use my breast pump cause he set it up for me. So now I have learnt everything I need to know and God Bless him I think he missed his calling.
I honestly believe that people only feel ripped off when they end up doing a different birth to what they had their heart set on. My advice is to go into birth with an open mind and leave all your options open, be prepared for anything and understand that this is the first thing in your new life that is NOT ABOUT YOU! its about your baby and what is best for them.
Congratulations Puppies! Both on the arrival of JD, and on your beautiful birthing experience.
Thank you so much for sharing your positive c/s experience with us. I think it's important to hear from women like you, as c/s more often than not only gets discussed when something goes wrong (in the context of failed vaginal delivery).
Thank you for taking the time to answer my question, I really appreciate your openess about it. I asked, not to cause contention or to upset anyone, but its something I have always wanted to know, because I think things like that can be an issue in birth trauma etc, and it helps to understand that concept a little better if we can talk about it openly with each other. I'm really happy that it was such a positive experience for you because I had been following what you were going through in the threads you started and I know that it did cause quite a bit of anxiety for you.
Yay Puppies - am so happy for you. I was glad I had a c/s too as my little boy entered the world without any distress. I was in a fair bit of pain the next day (like you mainly due to wind) but I didn't care cause my bubba boy was doing perfectly!!! As you say - it should be about the baby.
I agree butterfly kisses - c/s is all too often criticised and some things I have read almost make you feel like you're not a real person cause you has a c/s. Sorry not wanting to turn this thread into a debate but just finally glad to read something positive about c/s.
Puppies, congratulations on the safe arrival of your little man. I'm delighted for you that you had the birth experience you wanted, thanks for sharing a positive CS story.
I agree my cs was wonderful (even tho it was after 16 hrs of labour and pain due to bub beingposterior and causing lots andf lots of pain for me!!) I was us the next day and did not look back! I really recoverd very fast and it really didnt hurt that much at all!
I got bub straight after the cs and then dh got her while I was stiched up - then I got hetr straight back and had her all day.
I will go back for a c/s with my second - but this will be a planned cs so maybe a little less stressfull!
Good one you for sharing your storie!!
And I agree - birth is about BABY! And if you keep a totally open mind mind then maybe avoid feeling so disapointed if you dont get the birth that you had planned on.
Thanks for your post puppies.....it has helped me feel a bit better. I had an elective c/s 4mths ago for my second baby and I had been very angry and dissapointed at myself ever since for not trying to deliver her vaginally. I have become depressed about it and feeling pretty useless....but your post as really lifted me today so thank you
I had a wonderfully calm and beautifully memorable c-section for the birth of our DD and I did not feel one ounce of guilt (despite everyone's best attempts at asking why I 'needed' to have surgery... weird how people (even strangers) do that...)
And I'm going back for another c-section this time around.
Sounds to me like your little boy is beautiful and you are a very happy, satisfied and proud Mum - congratulations!
oh puppies, thank you so much for posting this. im having an elective c section in 2 weeks, and i feel like im getting constantly criticised for it. im only very small, and bub is rather large, and having difficulty engaging into my pelvis. so i feel good about avoiding the distress of trying , and then having to have an emergency Caesar. id rather go in calmly and have the birth of my first baby to be a pleasant experience. thank you so much for helping me to feel more at peace with my decision, and for reassuring me that the recovery is not so bad!
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CS 11 days ago and it was wonderful!
I'm so pleased you had a positive experience. And good on you for sharing and being proud!
) but I didn't care cause my bubba boy was doing perfectly!!! As you say - it should be about the baby.
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