Xh didn't stay for either. Mind you that was probably a good thing. I had to beg him to drive me to the hospital to visit DS1 (premmie, SCN) after I'd had a c/s.

And for DS2 we weren't really on speaking terms. dS1 stayed in daycare, XH went to work (chose not to take time off ). My mum came and stayed with me which was fabulous.

If it was the right partner I'd love them to stay.