Feel abit of a loss already....

[Vixstar]

I am due to have our Little Lady 24th Sept (elect c-sect). I am fine with it as it will be my 3rd c-section anyways so I don't know any diiferent. The first two were emergency ones - name only though.

Buuut, Babee turned head down this week and at first (apart from a minor freak out ) I was super stoked but then thought...it really is a waste of time if she gets into position etc as I won't be going into labour! Does that sound silly? It sort of feels like a waste of time.....am i alone in thinking and feeling this way?

I then had a fleeting thought about trying to get her to come early.....she is going to bed 2 weeks early as it is and then I woke up to myself and thought about how I could endanger her health.

Sorry for a ramble but I just had to off load.

xxxx

[Visitor7]

Oh hun, I can't give advice, but I wanted to give you a massive I wish I had wise words to say, but I don't.

[Arimeh]

Are you interested in trying for a VBA2C? Its ok to change your mind you know You should talk to your care providers and see if they can help you

[Vixstar]

Thanks Jodi.....I have been thinking about Maz as she had 4 so might hunt her down for an cyber-ear bash.

Mel - just reading your siggy ..."They don't care how they were born, they're just glad they're here"......might have to repeat that to myself daily! It would be a VBAC3......the first was FTP after 17 or 18 hrs of labour, induced to the max and only got to 4cm and Bailey was a posterior baby. I actually remember asking DH if I could go home...like having a bad day at work! With DS#2 got to 5cm after about 15 hours and then he pulled back up out and turned posterior and it was all over for me. So FTP again! I was an emotional wreck and felt so...........don't know the word for it. I had a wonderful Middie who was 6 months preggas herself and coaxed me into an Epi to get relief from the pain. (For both I only used gas....which iteself is an interesting experience! lol ) The morning after my 2nd c-section my OBGYN came to see me and told me to be proud of myself for working so hard and not to beat myself up as it was not my fault. I am thankful she said that to me as I held my chin high after that!

I see my ONGYN next week....I think......will have a chat to her about my feelings. She is perfect as an OBGYN for me, does not beat around the bush or plant roses when the truth is needed! Maybe it is just hormones atm messing with my head.......

xxxx

[Arimeh]

But you've only had 2 previous sections yes? So it would be a VBA2C - same as what I had

And no labours are the same, just as no children are exactly the same - so if its something you want to go for (in your heart) then do it

I mean yes, they don't care how they are born (and I truly believe that) but it doesn't mean that YOU don't care

All the best with whatever you decide

[~StarBright~]

I know exactly what you mean- i had an emergency csection for angel DD, then DS i was booked in and same as you he was head down, all gearing up for the natural approach- i even went into labour- was offered a VBAC (Which i said thanks but no thanks- get him out now please) and in some ways i felt crap for refusing, but in other ways after losing a baby i would never have forgiven myself if anything went slightly wrong... again with DD she was head down rearingg to go- again started contracting before csection booking, (no offer of vbac this time though- different hospital) and still went with the csection.

So yeah i understand abit how you feel- it seems unfair and a bit of a waste for bubs to go through all the work of being in the right position, doing everything its supposed to do for what seems like nothing as they are going to get pulled out the "sunroof" as one funny BB lady puts it.

But at the same time- its all good for them- every bit of preparation they do in there DOES benifit them which ever way they exit. Its all good for them!!!!

And yes do repeat the mantra- they dont care how they were born, they're just glad they're here!! And to be honest from experience i can even change it to Idont care how they got here, im just glad they are here- but each to their own- and it is completely possible for you to decide that if bubs is looking like she is doing her bit and that labour is possible- then definately DO ask your care people what the chances are of that happening for you!!!

Good luck and all the best!!

[squidipa]

i have had 4 c sections and all kiddies were head down, do what u feel is right ask more questions about options

[boobaloo]

talk to your obgyn about your options, if you want to give it a go, then that's brilliant, if not, that's great too, only you can make these decisions for your body.
as long as you get your precious baby at the end, who cares how she comes out!

[Vixstar]

But you've only had 2 previous sections yes? So it would be a VBA2C - same as what I had

And no labours are the same, just as no children are exactly the same - so if its something you want to go for (in your heart) then do it

I mean yes, they don't care how they are born (and I truly believe that) but it doesn't mean that YOU don't care

All the best with whatever you decide

:lmao:......preggo brain here! Of course it is a VBAC2..... doh!

Thanks everyone for your support. Am going to speak with DH tonight or when we get 2 secs to ourselves and see what he thinks. I really appreciate the feedback. xxxx