I just agreed to have a section... but I dont want it...

[Emma1979]

hi there
what is the reason for the schedule c-section, is baby breech??

if it were me i think i'd wait for spontaneous labour to at least have the surprise component, and to feel what contractions and labour are like, then perhaps have the c-section if VBAC isn't an option...

i think anyone that is having doubts about an elective c-section speaks volumes and should seriously consider a VBAC, but i don't know your situation.... good luck, i'm due a few days after you and attempting a VBAC.

[Jas]

Rufalina,

I agree, I don't think it sounds like you are ready to have a c/section on friday. If you are unsure I would wait to think longer about it. If the baby is breech this is something that could change, have they tried manually turning the baby? have u tried some of the natural ways to turn your baby?

Can I ask why you would need an emergency c/s on the 4th? Is there any reason you can't just wait it out with monitoring etc

[Kitt3n]

Oh beautiful

Hun you really don't sound ready. I know this is so very hard for you - but if all is travelling OK do you think you will be OK to wait till Jan?

What is YOUR gut feeling as to how that will impact you ?

[~Trish~]

Hi Rufalina, I hope you don't mind me posting in your thread . I think everyone has given you some great advice. You don't sound like you are ready to make that decision so soon, you really need to feel peace about your decision. Would you consider waiting until the 4th and seeing what happens?

I know, from what I've read from you, that you have really been wanting to try for a VBAC. It sounds like your Obs negative outlook:

but he feels that on that date he will be having me in for an emergency section

has put a seed of doubt into your mind? I'm sure he was being lovely and caring about you, but when you feel someone important doesn't have faith in you, it's easy to believe them . He could very well be right, or he could very well be wrong! Do you think it's worth giving it a shot, aiming for your much wanted VBAC believing in yourself and your bub rather than your Ob? Could you try natural ways to move your bub? Have you read techniques on the spinning babies website?

Sorry, I hope I don't sound like I'm pushing you! I just wanted to put some thoughts out there for you to help with your decision making. I think we all want you to be at peace with whichever way you choose to birth your baby and only you can decide .

If you choose to go for your VBAC we will all be your cheering squad, if you choose to go for a c/s we will still be here to cheer you on!

Best of luck deciding

[feeb]

If you don't feel ready for cs don't have it!!!!!

What is Dr's reasoning for not wanting to wait and see till at least EDD???

You need to be comfortable with what ever you decide and if baby and you are both safe and healthy there is no rush to jump in and do a cs if that is not what you want.

good luck

[Fleur]

Oh hun
As everyone else has said, it really doesn't sound as though you are ready for a CS on Friday.

Is there any reason your OB wants to do the CS now, instead of waiting? The 4th Jan is still over 2 weeks away.
A lot can change in two weeks... hell, a lot can change in two days as I very well know...

You can have an emergency CS & still have an empowered CS, IYKWIM? How do you think you would be if you treid for a VBAC & it ended in a CS? Would it be enough to know you gave it a shot?

I will never have the experience of a contraction, or that wet slippery newborn on my chest, or that wow I did it feeling. Can I live with this????

my heart broke for you when I read this... whichever choice you make, I hope you find peace with it

[fourthontheway]

You don't want the surgery? Cancel it. You're in charge of your body

I would be seeking a second opinion from a care provider who did not specialise in surgery - a midwife. See what a midwife says about your chances before you go ahead and make the decision - one that you are clearly unhappy about.

If you decide to have a vbac your doctor must enable that, not pressure you into surgery. Vbac is far safer for you and your baby than repeat surgery, and study after study prove that.

Lots of love to you. The last thing you need at this late stage of pregnancy is pressure! Make your decision, and stick to your guns. Good luck!

(ps. I had a vba2 - it was amazing, I'm not planning another birth at home and I can't wait!!!)

[~Kaz~]

Hun only you can know what you're able to live with and what you will probably regret. I agree with Sarah's post but of course, it is really your body and your choice. I wonder why your logical mind says go with this Friday? Your heart sounds like you want to leave it until the 4th Jan and give yourself every chance to VBAC. (Just my reading of your post).

I agreed to an induction on a Friday afternoon (scheduled for the Monday). I thought about it over the weekend and felt a bit like you. I was pretty uncomfortable with rushing, I felt I was being rushed and I felt a bit pressured. I negotiated to put the induction off until the Friday and bought myself another 4 days. The next morning, I went into labour spontaneously. I still ended up with a cs, but I know I gave myself and DS every chance to do it vaginally and I laboured for a long time naturally which I will always be grateful for. I think if I'd been induced, given what eventuated, I would have been guaranteed the cs and I wouldn't have experienced labour like I did (at home, drug free etc).

Not sure if my experience will help you at all but I am really glad I had a couple of days to think things over. Take the next day or two to decide. You'll know what's right.