Nicambhar, it's got nothing to do with being a bully and everything to do with claiming the empowered birthing experience that you rightly deserve! In my experience, the hospital would've been quite happy to go along with whatever the usual way is, if I'd been happy to do that as a patient. But I wasn't, I kept asking for skin to skin, for bfing in theatre and/or recovery, for having my DH stay with me, I kept telling them why it would affect my health and wellbeing. Fight the good fight hun, you have every right to be assertive when it comes to getting the 'best practice' and hte best possible care for you and your bubba. xxx