Fair enough. There is just so much to think about, isn't there?
I hope the hospital comes to the party for you as far as immediate bonding. Even though I don't think my first son has been negatively effected by the c/s and the separation, it was really amazing to hold DS2 straight away. Such a rush of emotions.
I had an emergency c/section and I was on such a high when they were stitching me up, I couldn't take the smile off my face (not sure if it was the epi as it was the first pain relief I had had while labouring or the thought of meeting DS ) while in recovery I just kept thinking of DS and I got the shakes really bad so was glad DS wasn't there as I probably couldn't have held him.
A friend of mine also had a c/section and freaked out cause she couldn't feel her legs, She knew she wouldn't feel any pain but I think she expected to still be able to feel her legs and was confused that no-one told her she wouldn't feel them.
I haven't revisited this thread for a while... at the time I was very reassured that everyone seemed to have an OK experience and had hubby & baby there for distraction.
However, I have just had my 'preparing for birth' appt with the middy at the hospital and found out that Hubby and baby won't be able to stay with me while I'm being stitched up - they'll be sent upstairs after a 5 minute cuddle and I'll be left alone on the table
Last edited by skeetaboat; January 23rd, 2010 at 02:38 PM.
Maybe ask her specifically about that - DF and our newborn were with me while I was getting stitched up!
On an aside note, when i had my c/s only 12 days ago while I was laying on the table and looking at the ceiling I noticed a light, similar to that of an emergency exit light you see over doorways on the ceiling, although it had a clear diffuser on it.
The surgeon said "ok, you should just be able to feel something wet on your stomach now, thats just us putting the iodine on it"....i said "um, yeah, I can see that through the reflection on the ceiling" at which point everyone in the room stopped and looked up at the ceiling!
It was quite funny. After all the op's they've had in that room it seemed no one was aware the patient could see exactly what was going on!
Hi Leesa, yeah I did ask about having the my hubby and baby stay while I'm getting stitched up and the midwife said they don't have enough staff, so hubby and baby have to go upstairs after a quick cuddle. In fact she was trying to get me to agree that it is ok, after I objected a bit. I don't have any further contact with anyone from the hospital until the actual day of my c-section, so I don't have an opportunity to ask if any of this is negotiable... unless I can find a way to get another appointment with someone from the hospital. It certainly sounded like it's not. I've tried calling the midwifery ward but the hospital operator won't put me through.
I told my obstetrician that I wanted my husband and daughter present in recovery afterwards, and so that's what happened. This was at Frances Perry in Melbourne. I was told that generally their presence would be conditional upon number of available midwives.
Have you determined exactly what hospital policy is? I guess it would vary from place to place. I was quite assertive about wanting them with me...you may have to be, too!
Does the midwife you spoke to work in theatre? Unfortunately, you can get different stories from different midwifes, even those working in the same hospital. And a midwife who usually works in the ward may not be aware of what happens in the theatre.
Is there a patient advocate at the hospital, or social worker, who may be get info for you on hospital policy, so then you can work out your preferences?
take care
Last edited by HotI; August 9th, 2009 at 06:45 PM.
Hi Kate, the midwife I spoke to has worked in theatre but I don't know if she regularly works there....
I wish I'd asked more questions when I was there, dammit.
Maybe write up some notes on what is your best case scenario, what you really don't want to give up, and what you are a bit flexible on. It might help to remember when you get to chat to the anaesthetic dude, ob, midwifes etc who will be helping you out on the day.
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) while in recovery I just kept thinking of DS and I got the shakes really bad so was glad DS wasn't there as I probably couldn't have held him.
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