When was your elective c/s booked?

[{sarah}]

Nic if I arrived at 8cm I would be stoked!

CM the problem is mentally I can't prepare myself to go into labour to just have another c/s. I would love to have a VBA2C but mentally I can't do it, I can't get my brain to stop thinking about what happened the last two times & I know it would affect the labour. The thought of deliberately going into labour & then going striaght for a c/s doesn't work for me either. However if my c/s was booked for 40 weeks (or even if it had to be earlier) & I went into labour before that I'd be going for it. Sounds silly I know, but if I happened to go into labour I'd go with the flow and try my hardest to get that baby out but I'm not willing to prepare for labour again just to have everything come crashing down a third time.

[maz]

which one

Nikolaus - emergency....no SCN straight into my room

Wilhelm - due on the 25th Jan - c/s 16th...waters broke on table - again straight in my room...no SCN

Vyolett....emergency on the 2nd Sep as I was in labour and yet again my waters broke on the table BUT booked for the 5th of Sep - due 13th september - no SCN - breast feed in recovery

Mateauz - due on the 13th of Jan - c/s the 8th....waters broke waiting in the prep room - in SNN due to cord being around his neck and being blue and not breathing when born

I also had generals with all 4.

I wouldn't think about it to much hon.......wait until the later part of your pg...you know your body and at what stage its at

so despite not willing to put your body through the motions to try for a VBA2C, why don't you wait to go into labour, so it's an emergency C/S?

going through one failed VBAC is heart wrenching enough but the risks of complications after having 2 c/s is extremely high..internal bleeding, internal tears of the c/s scar, let alone the emotional scaring involved to your mind for maybe failing again. Its not as easy trying for a VBAC after having an unsuccessful one

[{sarah}]

going through one failed VBAC is heart wrenching enough but the risks of complications after having 2 c/s is extremely high..internal bleeding, internal tears of the c/s scar, let alone the emotional scaring involved to your mind for maybe failing again. Its not as easy trying for a VBAC after having an unsuccessful one

Very well said Maz

[The[cookie]Doctor]

Sarah (and Maz), I am sorry if my suggestion seemed insensitive; I have seen other women suggest it for their own experiences and wondered if it was an option for you. I did not mean any offence, and I am sorry if it came across like that.

[rufalina]

Hun, I booked mine for my EDD. We (my OB and I) talked thought my pregnancy, and always said I would labour first, but if, by EDD baby was not here, then CS would happed.

So my DS was blissfully born on his EDD by elective CS.

Not sure what I will do next time... I plan to think about it, if and when I get there... Good on you for facing it now, and working it out.

[{sarah}]

Don't be silly Cookie, you weren't insensitive at all & I definitely didn't take offense.

Having a failed VBAC (even though I don't think I failed exactly) makes it very very difficut to trust your body to do the right thing & can make you very frightened of going into labour again. Having one emergency c/s can crush your trust in your body, but having two (or more) is very very hard on your confidence.

[nic]

Having a failed VBAC (even though I don't think I failed exactly) makes it very very difficut to trust your body to do the right thing & can make you very frightened of going into labour again. Having one emergency c/s can crush your trust in your body, but having two (or more) is very very hard on your confidence.

When I arrived at the hospital for our c/s with DS and was told how far I was dilated then taken to a labour room..I was secretly excited and terrified at the same time. When they asked if I wanted to attempt a VBAC I got even more scared. I was lying on my back - though I don't think I would've moved to another position, so I knew this wasn't the best option, I was already strapped up to the monitor and they inserted the needle in my hand as a "just in case"
All I could think was, I've been here before..on my back, strapped to a machine, needles in hands, contracting, sucking the life out of the gas...it was a familiar path that had ended with my confidence being shattered first time, and which I wanted to avoid the second time. So I chose the c/s. I do have trouble dealing with it, but then other days I know it was right for my emotional well being.
Sarah, I think you are an ABSOLUTE LEGEND for educating and empowering yourself with attempting a VBAC with Juliette..

Nic

[maz]

CM - to be honest...its hard to hear suggestions from other's who haven't walked in our shoes.

Trying and failing for a VBAC is an extremely emotional crippling thing to go through as a woman. You question your ability as a mother full stop when you have unsuccessfully failed from wanting to do the most natural and god given trait so many other woman seem to breeze through. Its almost like a slap in the face! Going through trying to birth your child naturally only to be sliced open and having the child forcefully removed from your womb takes away some of your dignity as a female.

While others may see c/s as an easy resort....its the emotional baggage that moves in long after your baby has been born that is the crusher

[The[cookie]Doctor]

Maz I'm sorry

[Laranna]

DS was booked in for 23rd May, he was due on 2nd June so 38+4. However, he did decide to make an appearance over a week before the booked date on 11th May (36+6). I laboured for 2 hours beforehand due to getting organised to get to the hospital and waiting for the ob etc. My c/s was due to placenta praevia so once I got to hospital they had to slow things down until they were ready to do the c/s which was now classed as emergency.

Anyway, I think mine was booked for the 38th week because of the praevia and it was risky for me to be in labour I guess with chance of prolapse, haemorraghing etc. I guess for you, Sarah, there would be no reason not to request a date on or past your due date going by history.

[~Kim~]

Sarah, after a hard preg, I booked mine yesterday for the day before my EDD.
I haven't had a failed VBAC, but I'm almost certain after a four day labour last time this one won't progress either. If I go before then, well great, we'll give it a go, but I'd rather have the whole experience positive, than be crushed again.

[Arimeh]

darl, I can totally understand where you are coming from. If only I went into labour in the first place.. LOL