Becmc, I feel the same, I don't think I will ever get over it. Becmc, Flea, Emma - it makes feel better that there are other women who feel that their c/s was unnecessary - I have spent a huge amount of time feeling so alone!

In some ways I do feel empowered and I will NEVER let this happen again! Next time I will be informed and more willing to stand up to any Dr. But with my first birth this was hard because I was naive and being rung-up by your OB who asks you whether you bags are packed, tells you to eat dinner and then get to the hospital for transfusions - well I didn't have much time to check out medical sources for alternate views and I stupidly and naively trusted him. It wasn't until I was admitted, had needles and drips in my arms that he told me he wouldn't treat me in I didn't agree to the c/s!!! Because of my medical condtion an epidural was not safe!!!! In fact the c/s probably but me at more risk but the dr thought that could control that risk better in surgery! In fact, nothing ever went wrong and their back up plan for surgery was simply not needed AT ALL!!! In fact the chances of anything going wrong was so so small!!! I wish I had been told!!!

It is unfair.

It is about choice and being properly informed!