i'm hoping if i get seen as "separate" by CL, then for the first time in years, i will have money to put aside for the whole moving out scenario. the rental bond, the whitegoods, the basic of setting up a different living arrangement somewhere else, moving expenses, bonds for utilities in new place etc. Day to day life is unpleasant, i can see the toxic effects on bilby, i want to get us out ASAP, it's just so hard to actually see it happening, right now, so many "roadblocks" to actually moving out. well that's how it feels to me.
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Grrrr This scenario is entirely the reason the "sep under one roof" is there!!!!! Effectively Clink have given up through their own lack of understanding of legislation, lack of time etc and are pretty much telling you to technically move out so they can grant you single status, then you can go back. If you did do that - and you were caught out (or someone decided it ain't cricket even though you were advised to do this by THEM), you would be up the creek and face another mountain of paperwork at the very least.

Sometimes you can't fill in every box on those forms - FFS, this entire scenario is making me very ranty. All it takes it face to face contact with an experienced CSO in an office that could help you and back up your claim with fricken LEGISLATION and do their effing job. I can say that when I worked there years ago that was exactly what we would do. We had time to HELP people. I return from Mat leave 6 years ago to find massive massive staff cuts, no time for anyone let alone complex cases and everyone gets flicked to the call centre GGRAAAAGHHH.

You might have to push them harder. PM me if I can help with these effing forms.

I'm going to have a cup of tea and a lie down now....xoxoxo