Livinthedream - I wouldnt want to speculate, but I know we have two very different parenting styles.

Cass - that's great!! I know the feeling about jinxing yourself. Our meditation and bribery was working so well until I told people it was lol! Still we are slowly getting back there. Essentially what we are doing is telling him that if he goes to bed when asked on each school night without the arguments then he can have a special movie night on the Friday night as a reward. Combined with the meditation stories most nights he goes to sleep without a fuss!! He actually asks for his special stories now too, I think his biggest issue is turning his little brain to quiet mode. I might try some lavender in his room too, how much do you use approximately, do you mix it with water or anything? Anything to help calm him for quiet time/sleep time