Hi,
My 4 1/2 year old daughter has always been a bossy child. Even when she was 3 months old, if she didn't get what she wanted she would turn her head away and not look at you.

Once she learned to speak, she was always telling us what to do and not do. We don't do what she tells us (usually) unless she uses her manners (ie please, excuse me etc) and is polite. As a result she doesn't boss us too much anymore.

This morning we were called in to her preschool teachers office to discuss her behaviour, in particular her bossiness of the other children and how they don't like it and so won't be friends with her. No one wants to hear that their child has no friends, especially when you overhear children saying that they don't like your daughter and won't be their friend (I just want to cry when I think about it).

My question is, what can I do to try and get her to not be so bossy with her peers and get her to be more considerate of their feelings? I had thought about setting up some 1 on 1 play dates, at the other child's house where they are on their turf and not so likely to back down when my DD tries to boss them around. Aside from this I am at a loss as to what to do. We have been told that if she doesn't get over it, then the chance of her ever being able to make friends as she gets older will be nearly impossible.

Anyone experienced and dealt with this problem?