Ok, so DD2 is diagnosed ADHD. Its not so much her behaviour that is the issue, though her lack of self control can be really frusterating. Its her lack of concentration that was the issue. It was a teacher who came to me worried about SPD among other things.
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DS is going too far. Way too far. I could so easily walk away right now & not look back. I've had it. DD3 is even more challenging for her age But obviously as a 2 year old, its still considered normal.

DS is 5. I spoke to his kindy teacher last year & he had no issues with concentration at the time. He engaged in everything in the class room very well & other than his refusal to interact with adults, he joined in & knew more tha he needed too for his age/grade.

He's demanding. I guess thats a personality trait from his father... I really don't know. But at 5 he still sits on the toilet until I come & wipe for him. No matter what I do, he won't do it himself. If he wants a drink of water, or something to eat I have to get it for him, not one of the girls. And as he's doing now, he'll roll around on the floor, crying & screaming for hours if I let it go.

The crying. OMG. He's known for his crying. Its embarrassing. If he's not happy with his drawing at school, he'll cry. Not just get upset. Over the top tantrum cry. If he gets the wrong colour bib at active after school, he'll cry. It doesn't end. Last week he got yellow, but wanted blue. Over an hour of carrying on.

He lives his life to **** everyone around him off. The girls will be quietly watching a movie, or drawing, so he'll turn the movie off, or pull the drawing out from under them. Or pull their hair, or sit on them. ANYTHING to get a reaction.

He's NOT deprived of attention. He has meccano & lego. We sit together, just the 2 of us, for an hour or so at least once or twice a week. Plus in day to day life, he & DD3 get all my attention. I struggle to make time for the other two We also kick the footy around every few days & do home work together etc.

This has been going on forever. But the last few months he's really pushing it. REALLY pushing it. I plan to change his diet where I can, but the kid is impossible. He hardly eats. We don't do sugar or colourings. I bake most snack stuff myself, but I do have bits & pieces I buy, like they might get a pack of plain chips, or tiny teddies on occasion, if I have extra money to buy.
He only really eats fruit, bread & meat. I can occasionally get him to eat carrot. Won't touch any other kind of veggie, no matter what I do with it. I'm going to start making my own bread again, because we struggle to stay away from white bread.

I'm ready to break down. DD3 is on a very similar level & does similar things, but she doesn't do the crying. The crying is extreme & its the thing I cant handle. I had a cow comment about it at sport last week. Not a 'gosh that kid cries alot' comment. It was 'I'm ****ing sick of this ****, he does this every ****ing week'. NOT true, though it happens a hell of a lot more at home than she see's.

It does happen every day. It probably happens 2 - 6 times a day. The excessive crying/screaming/demanding. I have neighbours very close & I know they hear it all. I know they're wondering why the hell I 'let' him get away with it. I'd love to hear their fix...

I have friends who say they get it, but they don't. I can see it in them all. The same thing. Apparently I let him get away with it. Yeah after hours of screaming, I sometimes do give in. Or I might try to avoid it, but seriously, come live my life & see if you can do better.

And by talking to a doctor, I'm not after a quick fix. I have one ADHD child (no thankyou, that one is sorted, I don't need suggestions for the hundred things I've already tried, it IS ADHD, I don't care if you believe in it or not). I just don't know if this is the same thing or not. He doesn't have the same struggles at school, its his BEHAVIOUR thats the issue. I don't have experience with that to know if thats what I should be looking at?

I'm having a really hard time & I'm so glad I can't afford alcohol, or I wouldn't be able to type this right now...