Oh your poor thing, you have been through a lot lately. I like the suggestion of trying to move back to the junior room, or if they can't do that, maybe see if the carers can find other ways of compensating. Before Jack moved up to his current room he was getting bored, so they brought toys and puzzles out from the older room for him and that helped a lot. I am sure there are things they can do if you talk to them.

Also, I would be reassuring your DD constantly that you WILL be there to pick her up etc. I am sure she must wonder whether or not you will be there at the end of the day, after those hospitalisations. So lots of reassurance should help.

Other than that of course, trying not to fight, or show stress in front of her, which you already know. And then give it time. It is probably not going to stop overnight, but hopefully it won't take too long. And don't feel bad, you are doing the best you can. Big hugs, I hope life gets easier for you soon.