Is this allowed in Family Day Care?

[visitor1]

My FDC leader told me that the carers must tell you verbally or in writing if anyone else is going to be in the home. I also have to sign off to say i am aware of others being there too.

Id be very uncomfortable if my children were around people not normally in the home and more so if i wasnt told/introduced to them.

[Lulu]

I'd still want to see a blue card or whatever it is.....

[briggsy's girl]

I'd still want to see a blue card or whatever it is.....

playing devil's advocate here - but that is only good for reporting things the person has been caught for. kinda pointless really - the police check means nothing - particularly in situations like the one Niliac mentioned - he was 19, he may have offended previously, but probably didn't have a record. those cards ONLY show whether they passed a check of their record in regard to sexual and physical abuse cases they've been convicted of...

you need to be confident that your carer has your childs best interests at heart, that the child is never left unsupervised with anyone else etc.

[StrawberryMumma]

Hi Celsie

That wouldn't sit right with me either. I'd be politely asking some questions too

(BTW..Good luck for the birth!!!! Can't wait to hear all about your new bundle and it's journey into the world x).

[blizz]

I have just started working in FDC and we definatley have to have safety screenings for any regular visitors and all family members over the age of 18 yrs.
I would definately be checking up on that if I were you.

[blizz]

sorry just read your other post, good luck with it all, xxxx

[Footsteps]

good luck hun...your like any normal mum. xxxx

[Just Me]

I think better safe than sorry. Ultimately, it is much easier for you to ask questions now than pick up the pieces later. Alarm bells are going off in your head and that's great it means you are thinking about the welfare of your child. Don't ignore them just because other people think you are over-reacting.

[Indadhanu]

I'd definately follow your gut and ask. Like you said, this is someone who is essentially with your son (at least in the same house) so you really do have a right to know IMO.

Well, thats how I'd feel if it were me.

It might feel a bit intrusive asking "so who was that here when I picked up DS" but, well, your number one priority is your DS, and if looking after him means asking questions about the person who is looking after him 2 days a week then thats what it means.

[danniellabella]

Seeing as she asked if you had a problem with the level of care, tell her that you have no problem with the care she provides (if that's the case) but be honest and tell her that you weren't comfortable with not knowing who the man was that visited but be clear that you have no problem with her having visitors, after all, it is her home, but that you would feel more comfortable if she either introduced visitors to you if they are there when you pick up or drop off your child, or that she lets you know in advance that so and so is coming over or when you pick up your child that so and so visited today.
If she responds badly to this, then take it up with the head office.

[sassy123]

i read ur first post but i didnt get through everyone elses so i am sorry if i have repeated anything.
i do FDC and anyone that is a resident over the age of 16 has to have a police check b4 u can start FDC. also u r aloud visitors but they have to sign in and out in a visitors book. this is to proove who is in the house at certain times so if anythign was every said to of happened they cant turn around and say no one was there.

in saying that if a parent turns up and i have someone here i always introduce who they are it is a bit rude to just not say anything. the only people i have here r usually other FDC people anyways or my husband and everyone knows him.

[Celsie]

I just want to point out that this lady has given me no reason to doubt her ability as a FDC provider. She seems genuine and lovely. Her house is spotless and she's had 15 years experience.

I spoke to DH about it. He said it's her home also and that she's probaly allowed to have visitors, but to call FDC and ask anyway.

I guess why I didn't say anything is because we've only been going there less than a month and I don't want to seem untrusting. But, I know I can take a chance with my DS's safety, just because I don't want to hurt her feelings.

It's been a big decision for me to send him there and now I'm worried that it's the wrong decision anyway. I spoke with my Mum this afternoon and she seemed to think I was over-reacting and kept telling me how good it is for him to be away from me (even though I sit at home a pine for him when he's there).

I'm going to call FDC head office tomorrow, so I'll let you know what they say. I wanted to thank you all for your replies and support. I was worried that I was just going to be called a paranoid mother.

[briggsy's girl]

he's your child - you're going to stress when he's not with you - esp if you essentially have nothing else you "have" to do without him!

make your call - find out what you need to find out. you're not paranoid - you're a normal mum wanting what is ultimately best for her child!

[Lulu]

Nope not paranoid at all.

[Celsie]

I tried to edit my post, but it's not working, so I'll post again.

The man was in his late 40's early 50's, so no chance of being her son. I do remember her telling the little girl eating lunch that "Uncle Jack" was there dropping off something she needed. Now, there's no way he was that little girl's uncle, so obviously a name she uses for the kids. I know her ex husband's name is Michael, so it's not her ex...

Will wait and see what FDC head office say.