Biting

[Hoody]

Thanks Mrsmac i am absolutely mortified and i think thats the reason i agreed to keep her home next week i am not happy about it though. I have a 4 month old and use that day to run all my errands so now i cant. I too think it a bit OTT of the other parents but they probably just think they have an angel and i have a monster.

[Hoody]

Another Q. I have not been told if i have to pay my fee's next week even though i've been asked to keep DD home. Is it unreasonable for meto refuse to as i dont thini i should have to as its not like she is sick or my choice really to keep her home.

[mrsmac]

Absolutely you should not have to pay!! I would bring that up before next week and say well I am sorry but if I have to pay I am sending her. Is your FDC run by a governing body? I would be speaking to them.

[Hoody]

It is run by our local shire/council etc and i have had no problems with it in the pasy i love the carer, DD loves it etc its just so hard that one behavioural problem (that has only happened twice whilst she has been in care might i add) is causing so many problems. I will def ring the family day care scheme manager at my local council and ask for advice/support. I dont think my carer is the real problem i think it all stems down to the other little girls parents.

I had hardly any sleep last night worrying about it and when i did still couldnt get the thought out of my head that people out there think my daughter is too much of a risk for their children to spend the day with. My DD is not a monster she is a normal toddler who shows her frustrations through her actions, some hit, push and shove etc but my DD bites. Her bites have only been mild at that- no bruises or blood etc. I just dont know what to do. Dh and i have decided to be alot stricter and firmer with the biting over the next few days to see if it improves but its not like she bites constantly iykwim only when very frustrated so not necessarily daily.

[mrsmac]

I agree with you that it is the other parents causing the problem Hoody. I know that no one wants their child to be bitten but anyone with children should understand that these things happen ( not being mean but I bet she's an only child!)
I would ring the council and check about the paying thing is she is excluded.

[Nazela]

My DD (3) has started biting, but dont think its happening at preschool, it only occurs when shes playing with the neighbours daughter (whos an aggressive player) but like your DD it only occurs when its over a toy and provoked usually (no all cases) - coz the girl usually snatches, pushes, swears or hits my DD and i told DD not to allow ANYONE to do any of that to you - but i swear i never told her to bite....

About the fees - i would definitely tell the FDC that if they dont want your DD to come then you wont pay as its not a public holiday nor is she sick at home.

[RobynG]

You poor thing Hoody. I think the other parents are being completely unreasonable. Your talking little kids here and biting is very common in most childcare settings. Sometimes kids do it because they are overwhelmed and like you said unable to express or communicate in other ways. That mother is just as likely to experience another biter in another FDC place when she moves her elsewhere. Its Crazy. I feel for you though. My son 22 months, is a hitter and its so embarressing. He can really whack other kids out of excitiement or frustration. I have been at my wits end teaching him not to do it and have taken a similar approach to you with time out and telling him no. Good luck. Might be worth complaining to the council if you are made to pay the day you have been asked to stay away.