Biting

[Nazela]

My DD (3) has started biting, but dont think its happening at preschool, it only occurs when shes playing with the neighbours daughter (whos an aggressive player) but like your DD it only occurs when its over a toy and provoked usually (no all cases) - coz the girl usually snatches, pushes, swears or hits my DD and i told DD not to allow ANYONE to do any of that to you - but i swear i never told her to bite....

About the fees - i would definitely tell the FDC that if they dont want your DD to come then you wont pay as its not a public holiday nor is she sick at home.

[RobynG]

You poor thing Hoody. I think the other parents are being completely unreasonable. Your talking little kids here and biting is very common in most childcare settings. Sometimes kids do it because they are overwhelmed and like you said unable to express or communicate in other ways. That mother is just as likely to experience another biter in another FDC place when she moves her elsewhere. Its Crazy. I feel for you though. My son 22 months, is a hitter and its so embarressing. He can really whack other kids out of excitiement or frustration. I have been at my wits end teaching him not to do it and have taken a similar approach to you with time out and telling him no. Good luck. Might be worth complaining to the council if you are made to pay the day you have been asked to stay away.

[Sus]

Hi
We have just had our DS come home with 3 horrible bite marks(one on the jaw line and two on his chest) on him so we are taking him out of the place(he only goes one day a week)....not because he has been bitten as we know fine well that things like this happen but because not one of the staff members picked it up so we feel if they cant notice something like that then they wont be able to notice other things happen which when your placing your child in their care you expect them to look after them not neglect!! My DH and I have been to the daycare and asked how on earth the could have missed him being bitten that many times but all we are getting is an I dont know answer which is just not good enough. Dont feel bad about your DD biting as when she is not in your care it is there responsibility to try and prevent it from happening! She will soon grow out of it!

Sus xx

[Hoody]

Sus- sorry to hear about your DS been bitten and i completely understand why you are moving him from that care. In our situation the carer was aware of the bites dealt with the situation appropriately and gave incident reports to both myself and the other parents involved so we both new about it. The 2nd week she kept a closer eye on the 2 girls but it still happened. I guess with FDC though its easier to monitor. In our FDC there are only 3 children in care on the day my DD goes. Where abouts in perth are you? If you go to your local shire/council theres lots of FDC homes around.

Since the other child has been moved my DD has not bitten anyone whilst in care my carer has been lovely and not had any problems with my DD's behaviour. I did not get asked about the fees for the day that she did not attend.