How do I handle this one????

[BrightSparkles]

I've made an appointment with the Director of the centre for first thing Monday.
I am so torn and confused. I just can't stop thinking about what if DS has just made this up. The particular little boy in question frequently picks on DS and his friends. I have quite a few times asked DS "why did you do that?" when he has done something wrong here at home and he's relpied "__ made me do it" but then again if he's done that then where did he get this kind of sexual knowledge from anyway to pin on this little boy???

I can understand your concern here. However, i don't believe this is something that your DS would have made up. This kind of behaviour (by the other kids) is a learnt behaviour and to me sounds like something they unfortunatly have experiences. While I understand that sex play is normal this type of behaviour is well and truely out of the norm.

You are doing the right thing by talking to the director of the CC. They need to know that this is happening so the appropriate people can be informed. They will also have a knowledge of how to gently talk to the kids without tainting thier story if it is actually abuse that is happening here.

I agree with all the PPs by informing and continuing to reinforce with your kids whats appropriate and whats not. I believe that talking about this kind of thing will may it not seem so tabu making it easier for them to talk to you about it if they or somone they know was put into a difficult situation.

A hard situation to be in. Let us know how you go hun. xx

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...................... thanks heaps Kate, will look into getting it for sure !!! xOxOx

[Beatrix]

Hun i just wanted to share a similar situation that occured at our local daycare centre, so thatyou dont feel its all that uncommon.

Unfort some children are not brought up in a environment where sexual interactions between adults are ad discret as they should be.

our child care centre had a penis incident as well involving two young boys aged around 4, with one informing the other that he was meant to drink his wee..

It was brought to the ddirectors attention and dealt with quickly, DHS were involved as were the police and a 'talk' was done amongst the children.



Please make sure the director follows up because in our case the child involved needed DHS to help him.

[BrightSparkles]

Just dropping in to see how you went talk to CC.
xx

[Leonie P]

Just dropping in to see how you went talk to CC.
xx

Well they are looking into the matter. They said the little boy hasn't been to Day Care since school broke up. They also said there is not a little girl at the centre with the name DS mentioned. But they do want me to write a statement, they are looking back over their records and talking to the teachers to make a report to the department. So for now I'm leaving it to them until I am not happy with where they are taking it.

[BrightSparkles]

Sounds like they are doing the investigations they should be then.
I hope it all works out for you.
xx

[mrsmac]

I hope they get all the details and then report it to DOCs as they legally have to, my worry would be that they would try to cover it up.