Look, I am one of the most easy going people on the planet and I'd be the same as you and not really react if someone tried to get my baby's attention with her foot.
But like you too, it would gnaw away at me later.
And I just think it's rude and not a nice way to treat a baby. And the more I think about it, it's just not right and IT'S JUST NOT BLOODY ON.
The milk/water incident on top of that. Something's not right. I too would look at other options.
WOAH HONEY.....MAJOR warning signs here, totally unacceptable behaviour for the staff to treat you litle man in such a fashion, DEFINATELY see the co-ordinator and express your concerns, are they an accredited centre? I have been a long day care worker for nearly 13years and I know for a fact that I would at least be given a written warning for such behaviour in the work place.
Have you been in to see the other centre you put your name down at, again?...I would call back in now, let them see that you are really keen , are their other centres near by you could try?
I really hope so, big hugs to your little man and good luck, you are totally right to be feeling uneasy, not acceptable even for a really bad day at work!!!!
Hmm.. yeah.. I know... *sigh*... its such a hard job being a mother!!!!! You know that nobody takes care of them like you do, but if you don't work, they won't have a roof over their heads!!!!
I think I will ring the Director tomorrow and just suss out the situation (in my non-threatening way of course) and see if they were short staffed or whatever (not that that is an excuse anyway).
Then I'll ring Tadpoles and see if I can chase them up.
Then I'll ring the other Tadpoles near our home and see if they have any vacancies...
Gee, this really isn't what I feel like doing at the moment!! I hate to feel that someone is treating my boy badly...
Honestly I would have left already if I was told by people who worked there that it wasn't a good centre.
Trust your instincts. Because the consequences are too high if there is something going wrong.
My ds didnt get his bottle at daycare the other day but they went through it with me because he refused it. He had refused his bottle that morning too so it was probably just due to teething. But the point is that they explained what had happened.
But also I think you should ask the carers (nicely) point blank what happened as it is a lot easier to tell how sincere they are then if you go to the director and she gets their story and tells you second hand. Plus it lets them know that you notice these things and they might pull up their socks.
Your lil man deserves better than that, and you deserve better for the money you pay!
But.......
is he actually happy there? If he is happy and settled, it might be better off to sit down with the manager of the centre and express your concerns. If he isnt really happy there, try somewhere else - he will adapt and chances are he might even be given his milk!
Its so hard isnt it mel
Because (although it isnt our fault) we to an extent blame ourselves because we were the ones that put them in day care!
But i know exactly how you feel and i would be up front and direct with them. Even go in face to face if you can so that you ensure it is sorted out.
I would have snapped if i saw someone nudge DD with their foot like a dog! you are a stronger person than me... makes you wish there were little spy cameras in there!
as for the drink.. i was say that yes it wasnt given. I made sure i made it clear that DD is to have her water available 24/7 to her (as it is always in her reach at home) because she doesnt have bottles of milk anymore (only one at night b4 bed). so if it isnt then she doesnt drink at all! iykwim.
Leaving your child in daycare is hard enough without the stress of mistreatment or high turn over of staff!
id ring and just ask some questions. You have the right to know- your paying for his care. I dont use my foot to get my sons attention, what makes them think they can do it to someone elses kid? When i was looking into dc for my lil man, they all were telling me that they let you know how your child was that day- nappy food drink and behaviour. If your not happy with their responses let them know that youll be watching them (and if your son talks) talking to your son. Still ask at other centres, maybe theyre more communicative.?
Rhianon - nah he doesn't talk that well yet, he can say words, but nothing to convey whether he is happy or not? I mean, he only cries for a second when I drop him off, and most of the girls are really good at distracting him.... I think its funny that they all think he is sooo laid back, and just goes with the flow - and he is SO not like that at home!! lol
But I will call the director and suss it out this morning (probably when DS is in bed so I won't be interrupted by screams.. lol)
Ok rang director, waiting for her to get back to me about the water/milk thing, she knows the girl who must of been the one to use her foot, and when I remarked that I just thought it was unusual because thats not how the other girls get babies attention, she said no thats not usually the way it is done. So I've probably got the girl into trouble..the director is pretty fierce too, I wouldn't want to fight with her!! (and I'm big and tough too!!)
Soooo.. just waiting to see about if they totally starved my child of liquid or not.... I mean he wouldn't go without water here because even if he has run out or something, he goes into the kitchen and says "cup" but I'm sure he wouldn't associate their fridge to be able to do the same thing...
I hope all goes well with your talk with the Director.. Even if they don't give him his weetbix like he usually has at home.. Most centres that I've seen have a breakfast time between 7 & 8, but then they have morning tea at about 9, so he should get something before lunch time, especially since he's so young. I mean they could even let him have weetbix during the morning tea time.. It wouldn't be that hard! As for the milk and water that just isn't on. Unless they have said, like at my sons childcare, that the children can't bring in bottles of milk, but that they can bring in bottles and the centre will supply the milk or water (something about sometimes parents mix in medications or things with their childrens milk and if other children snatch it away or the child wanders around puts it down, another child could drink it and get sick.. never thought it could happen but better to be safe than sorry i guess). Or they might have forgotten and been using their own sippy cups for him? I don't know. You won't know unless you ask I guess. But nudging him with their foot to get his attention, if I saw anyone do that to my son I would lose it. There should be an "ethos of attachment" and that includes respect, trust and a caring relationship between the caregivers, child and parents, which honestly doesn't sound like you or your son are getting any of that from the day care.
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