Thanks for your replies everyone

I've decided that my first port of call will be to call the council to see what they can suggest and then I will speak with a few Child Care centres to see what they can "offer" that is different to our current situation and they're sugestions on how they would deal with it.

Unfortunately I am a return to work mum and finances and mortgages don't allow me to be otherwise at this point.

As far as getting family help - he spends tuesdays with his granny and that is all she can offer as she also works.

It's so heartbreaking to know that your'e torturing your child by doing something to help better their future.

Hopefully I will get some help with this one - otherwise I really don't know what else to do

Thanks so much for the feedback - it's nice to hear something other than "just leave him there, he'll adjust" - this just goes against all my mothering instincts.

Wish me luck