...the one DR in Darwin who would do it would only do it once DS was 6 months old and if we could give 10 informed reasons as to why.
That would have made my blood boil. Where is the concept of personal choice there? The choices we make for our children are not the equivalent of a school exam. Any choice made about the medical side of our children's future are not taken lightly, and they are always layered with social, emotional and family context.
I would understand doctors wanting to make sure parents are educated, informed and aware of the risks. But beyond that, I would find that extremely condescending.