thank you all so much for your responses.

Coby sleeps 12 hours overnight (I know you are all going "what is she worried about then???") but he goes down for about 40 minutes in the morning, then I fight with him all day to get him back to sleep for a little nap because he is tired and cranky and very grizzly.

I think that he is teething to be honest, I think that is upsetting him more than being tired, he's just grizzling all the time and I guess that I am thinking that he's probably tired, but I guess he's not.

Yes, my clinic sister gave me a "Tressillian" booklet on feed play sleep patterns for babies, and it says that they are supposed to have 2-3 big day sleeps but I don't really follow that anyway, as Tressillian believe in controlled crying etc, and there is no way we are doing that rubbish.

I have tried all the things in the comforted sleep thread to soothe him to sleep, and it works when he's ready to go down, but if he's not ready to sleep, he screams the house down.

I guess I've just got a little man who is too much of a sticky beak and doesn't want to miss anything....

Its worse if we are out, he won't sleep at all because there is WAY too much going on.

I am just going to have to go with whatever he is doing and just adapt...

Its just really hard when there are so many so called experts out there telling you what your baby should and should not be doing, I guess being my first, I tend to believe what they say (until I try it myself that is) and when it doesn't work, it can be a little distressing. I am not going to listen to these idiots anymore, Im just going to go along with whatever Coby wants to do!!

Thank you all again for all your advice, it has really boosted my confidence!!