DITTO!

This book arrived in my life at just the right time, when mothers group and others were getting in my ear and making me doubt my natural instincts as a mum. DH loved it too!

I have my own personal issues with abandonment by my mother etc.... and sometimes thought that my own hangups and stubborness were influencing my decisions in a bad way, but this book taught me there was some basis to my feelings and it wasn't just me being neurotic and projecting my own problems on my daughter.

I have loaned it to a friend and have often missed being able to refer to it for help &/or a bit of reassurance!

I will also take this opportunity in this thread to gloat a little - at 14 months my DD has all of a sudden learnt to put herself to sleep without a single tear or stress! It is only night 7, so it could be temporary, but we are soooo proud of her - it just happened, so naturally and so beautifully, she just let us know she was ready and now after a few minutes cuddling in her room we put her down awake, she rolls over to cuddle teddy and its lights out without a peep (I think maybe my instinct to introduce a pillow may have helped...?)

We have put in 14 months of at times VERY hard slog and lots of time-consuming cuddles, drives, pram walks, co-sleeping (actually she still ends up in our bed most nights!), but its all worth it to see her learn a very hard skill in her own time.

I cannot praise these authors enough