DD only used to go to sleep if she was being bounced or rocked or fed. I slowly transitioned to lying next to her and singing, stroking her hair and massaging her, and then she'd fall asleep. Now, every now and then, I can pop her down next to me with her blankie, she'll have a little chat and off she'll go. I still can't pop her down and leave her, but that's okay, I don't really want to anyway, she'll get there. Trust your instincts and ignore outside 'advice'. Smile and nod and lie if that makes it easier. My mum was a huge commenter on how I'm making a rod in our back etc...my daughter has been sleeping 6+ hours overnight since 6 weeks old. She now sleeps 11 average. Anyone who has met her says how contented and happy she is, she's certainly not a rod in my back! Even her cry is quiet lol. Just trust your instincts, you know what's beat for your baby.