personally, i just don't believe that baby's need to self settle. if they did then what are we for? baby's need us to help them to sleep, to feel safe and secure in the world. they are baby's, next the 'experts' will be telling us they need to work out the family's budget. it's piffle if you ask me. i have 3 boys and they have never self settled until they were about 2 years old and i just didn't expect them to. they slept on me or in the sling or on the bed with me and if they woke after a short time i would offer the breast again and they were off to sleep again until they woke up happy. research has shown that the CIO, control crying, control comforting or whatever they are calling it now to justify their actions has long term effects on children. keep following your heart you know whats best for your baby. i know it is a struggle to find like minded people out there but we are out there just few and far between by the look of it
oh and welcome to BB
beckles