Ok. I understand you need some rest and a break, fair enough, but be fair to yourself here, there's no big hole that you've dug yourself, no big mistake that you've made. this is just what's been working best for you guys. That's all.

Can you put a mattress on the floor next to your bed? Or, if you both slept on the floor, she could fall asleep next to you, then you can slide her over away from you so you have some space and she starts to get used to not being right next to you. My DS would not sleep in his cot and we gave it up altogether from around 9-10 months. It just wasn't worth the drama and he's slept on a mattress on the floor since then. When he's having bad nights he needs mum or dad with him still, but otherwise he'll sleep alone.

Good luck. Hope you get some more rest soon.