DD would self settle for a time aswell, but it got harder and harder, now she doesnt self settle atall, i BF her to sleep and when she wakes in the night she comes in with us. I guess if i had gone about it in a different way i could have got her selfe settling again, but i am happy with it this way...might be different if i had #2!!! So...not much help either,sorry...but im sure there are ways to solve it with out CIO! hopefully you will find that magic thing to solve it....till then, big hugs