Hey Mummy! - No Boobie, No Sleep! Sleep books making me stressed!

[Amie]

Just wanted to quickly say that, firstly, you're doing an awesome job tending to your little man and offering him what he needs (ie. you!). And secondly, while baby books are full of great advice and hints and tips and ideas and theories, and while you may find parts of them helpful, no-one has written a book about your baby. You know him best, and he knows you better than he knows anyone else, so it makes sense for the two of you to find your own little groove and go with the flow.

xox

[Janie]

Melody, hun, you are doing a fabulous job! I agree with the others, your baby's sleep has very little to do with you or anyone else, and everything to do with their temperament. You sound like a wonderful mum! Really, it's just a confidence thing, if we could all be confident about our choices we'd be alot happier!

When things are particularly tough, one thing I try to remind myself of is that this won't last forever. It always makes things seem easier, and sometimes makes me sad when I think that one day he won't want cuddles with his mum, let alone in bed with her LOL. So then I really try to make the most of it, poor child

Willow, you are a WONDERFUL mummy! Should, shmould, please don't worry about what others think. You know, when people ask me if DS is sleeping through (and they're always assuming that he is ) I just 'no' in a tone that very clearly implies that I don't expect him to. If they seem bothered by that I just mention that as I'm the one who gets up to him, I'm not quite sure why anyone else cares. I know it's easier said than done, but honestly, L is YOUR baby and if you're happy to get up to him during the night (well, you know what I mean!), then that's great Keep up the good work girlfriend.

[trailerbabe]

OMG it is so reassuring to read all this. My little three month DD has some nights where she'll feed a couple of times and wet her nappy maybe once, and then other nights (like last night) it's every two hours and about five nappy changes (after which she has to have a recovery feed to resettle).

I have the Pinky book - but I also have friends, my mother's group and my MCHN all telling me she should be feeding every three hours or hopefully only feeding once in the night. I don't know anyone else who is co-sleeping, and anybody who does know that she sleeps with us just says doomladen things like "You guys are making a rod for your own back."

I spend half my time feeling confident and happy about how we're approaching this whole parenting thing, and the rest of the time wondering about all the stuff people tell me about 'controlled settling' and how she should be 'learning to go to sleep on her own'.

I actually did the 'controlled settling' thing twice a few days ago, and although she slept I felt horrible/odd/strange about it. Once I thought about whether I would like to cry until I got too tired and just went to sleep, I decided that was not the way I was going to go. Poor little mite. Never again!

Melody - you're at the 10 month mark and are wondering all the same things as me! Thank you for posting - you're definitely not alone on this one!

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Beth

[Michelle71]

Just reply - my rod, my back

DS fed through the night (and day) every 2 hours until he was 6 months. He is now more than 10 months and still feeds through the nights. He started to sleep really well during the night in January then teething messed things up. They are still messed up but I put that down to developmental spurts - crawling, cruising, almost walking, talking, fine motor skill development etc etc. He has changed and grown so much in the past few months that it is no wonder he needs extra feeds and a little extra comforting. We co-sleep when we need to (60:40 at the moment) and he will soon be a big boy and won't need me anymore

I am permanently sleep deprived and yet I wouldn't change a thing. He will sleep. And when he is a teenager and I am having trouble getting him out of bed, I can look back and know he is only catching up on the sleep he missed out on as an infant

As for the *experts* and the *advisors* - pfft to them. You have a happy and healthy baby. Do what you feel is best for them and you.