Hey Mummy! - No Boobie, No Sleep! Sleep books making me stressed!

[trailerbabe]

OMG it is so reassuring to read all this. My little three month DD has some nights where she'll feed a couple of times and wet her nappy maybe once, and then other nights (like last night) it's every two hours and about five nappy changes (after which she has to have a recovery feed to resettle).

I have the Pinky book - but I also have friends, my mother's group and my MCHN all telling me she should be feeding every three hours or hopefully only feeding once in the night. I don't know anyone else who is co-sleeping, and anybody who does know that she sleeps with us just says doomladen things like "You guys are making a rod for your own back."

I spend half my time feeling confident and happy about how we're approaching this whole parenting thing, and the rest of the time wondering about all the stuff people tell me about 'controlled settling' and how she should be 'learning to go to sleep on her own'.

I actually did the 'controlled settling' thing twice a few days ago, and although she slept I felt horrible/odd/strange about it. Once I thought about whether I would like to cry until I got too tired and just went to sleep, I decided that was not the way I was going to go. Poor little mite. Never again!

Melody - you're at the 10 month mark and are wondering all the same things as me! Thank you for posting - you're definitely not alone on this one!

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Beth

[Michelle71]

Just reply - my rod, my back

DS fed through the night (and day) every 2 hours until he was 6 months. He is now more than 10 months and still feeds through the nights. He started to sleep really well during the night in January then teething messed things up. They are still messed up but I put that down to developmental spurts - crawling, cruising, almost walking, talking, fine motor skill development etc etc. He has changed and grown so much in the past few months that it is no wonder he needs extra feeds and a little extra comforting. We co-sleep when we need to (60:40 at the moment) and he will soon be a big boy and won't need me anymore

I am permanently sleep deprived and yet I wouldn't change a thing. He will sleep. And when he is a teenager and I am having trouble getting him out of bed, I can look back and know he is only catching up on the sleep he missed out on as an infant

As for the *experts* and the *advisors* - pfft to them. You have a happy and healthy baby. Do what you feel is best for them and you.