OMG it is so reassuring to read all this. My little three month DD has some nights where she'll feed a couple of times and wet her nappy maybe once, and then other nights (like last night) it's every two hours and about five nappy changes (after which she has to have a recovery feed to resettle).

I have the Pinky book - but I also have friends, my mother's group and my MCHN all telling me she should be feeding every three hours or hopefully only feeding once in the night. I don't know anyone else who is co-sleeping, and anybody who does know that she sleeps with us just says doomladen things like "You guys are making a rod for your own back."

I spend half my time feeling confident and happy about how we're approaching this whole parenting thing, and the rest of the time wondering about all the stuff people tell me about 'controlled settling' and how she should be 'learning to go to sleep on her own'.

I actually did the 'controlled settling' thing twice a few days ago, and although she slept I felt horrible/odd/strange about it. Once I thought about whether I would like to cry until I got too tired and just went to sleep, I decided that was not the way I was going to go. Poor little mite. Never again!

Melody - you're at the 10 month mark and are wondering all the same things as me! Thank you for posting - you're definitely not alone on this one!

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Beth