thanks Spring,

I go to the lounge cause DP has major back problems & he just can't sleep on the recliner, the queen bed isn't big enough for all 3 of us which is why we have a new king single bed being delivered that will be big enough for me & DS.

I am not keen on the sleep school thing & I like the idea of co-sleeping which is why we have brought the new bed but he seems to take ages (about an hour +) to go to sleep unless I rock & jig him & at 11 kgs it is doing my back in & I don't know what to do about the day sleeps as he might crawl off the beds as he is now crawling. If I could get him to sleep without having to rock him then I probably wouldn't go to the sleep school but I can't seem to get him to sleep any other way.

He has such a pleasant, happy nature that I don't want to risk losing that via sleep training but it is hard when everyone we speak to tell us to just shut the door on him & leave him to cry it out, I don't want to break the trust we have built up, I just don't want to do that.....

Does anyone know if sleep training & leaving him to cry for upto 5 mins at a time before comforting upto 40 mins & then get them up & try again later will do that?? I have read that controlled crying will but that can involve leaving them to cry upto 20 mins without going into comfort the child for an indefinite amount of time which I would definitely not do but am considering leaving the 5 mins etc... but just not sure what to do....