I always had to rock DS to sleep also. he wasn't as big as your lad but I still found it difficult. I started taking him for a short walk (in his PJ's ready for bed). I'm talking up and down our street.

I found if I did this just before bedtime I got to get some freash air and relax and it chilled him out. Eventually I didn't have to take him for a walk and just stood outside and sang a few songs.

It will get better, I agree, I think that going to a sleep school that control cries is going to distress you and DS. What you are explaining sounds well within the ambit of normal. I know it doesn't feel like it but I'd suggest keep doing what you are doing (attachment parenting) and it will pay off.

My DS, who would need rocking, patting, feeding to sleep. Now goes to bed wide awake and falls asleep no worries.

Just hang in there. From a mother will a sleep challenged baby I know how tough it is. You are doing a great job.

Spring.