FJ, thanks I am very proud as he has been fully b/f - he also feeds nearly every 2 - 3 hrs 24/7 so I think that has something to do with it We did start solids at about 5 & 1/2 mnths but in a baby led way & he wasn't eating that much, we have built up & are feeding him twice a day & building that upto 3 times a day.

I think you have hit the nail on the head as there are a few 'new' things happening, he has gone from the cradle to the cot - which is harder for me to put him down in. He has outgrown his wraps, I know I could buy material to make him bigger wraps but once he's asleep he tends to sleep with his hands up & on top of his bedding which he can't do if he is wrapped so I am trying to help him to learn to go to sleep without the wrap. He already has 2 teeth & I think he is starting to get more as well just from little things but they are annoying him more than anything else at the moment. He's never been a great sleeper it is just worse than normal at the moment & it is starting to get to me, hence I have posted for some inspiration.

I love, love, love your blue circle idea & leaving my energy with him, definitely up my alley I wished I had thought of it before. I have just put him down with this in mind so we will see how it works. I also think the falling off the bed thing is only a matter of time & I have taught him to 'slide' down me with his back to me so I don't think it would be hard to teach him to go tummy side down instead.

Spring angel, I like the going outside idea especially with summer here & it will probably still be light when I put him to bed, could be a nice way to say goodnight to each other & relax together before going to bed. I am glad to here your DS goes to bed awake now it really gives me hope & was the encouragement I was after. Laying with him & being for him is a lot of hard work but I really think in the end it will be worth it. It is hard sometimes when I am going against the grain & what everyone else around me does (& TBH I use to think cc was that 'best' thing to do but now with DS I can't bear to do it)

Thanks Rah, I'm glad it get's betterer, I have done the swaying on the bed thing, as I call it, & we may have to go back to that. We are changing the way he goes to sleep in some major ways really so I think I have to remember that 'this too shall pass' to quote another BBer.

HP's mum, thanks as well to know that it does get better in time. I too am hoping the new bed is going to help & I think I have to give him some time to get use to going to sleep both in the cot & unwrapped, I'm thinking I might start either with him in the bed first so I can lay with him or arrange the bed & cot so that I can lay in the bed with him in the cot but I can touch him as necessary.

I think I am going to go to Trisillian so that I can say that I gave it a chance, pressure from DP & family, however I will be very firm about the gentle methods - I figure worse case scenario I leave, I won't do anything I am not comfortable, who knows they may have some tricks/tips that I haven't tried yet.

Thank you to everyone who has replied you have restored my faith that I am doing the right thing & sometimes it is hard but it is still the best thing for me & my son.