Hey, I was going through the same thing with my DD when she was 8mths. I took her to the sleep clinic not knowing it was controlled crying!! When I got there I was so upset as I really didn't want to go there. It reassured me that I didn't want to continue it at home.

The way I look at it is that the baby spends 9mths inside of you, so the baby needs a good 9mths of being really close to you. I think personally controlled crying is teaching my bub that I won't come when she needs. I slept with my DD for 12mths, until I stopped breast feeding. Then I made a big deal out of her having her own room and her own bed. We set it up together. She had no problems moving to that room.

I also never liked the thought of bubs going to sleep so upset. I know if I was ever really upset and went to sleep I never had a great sleep.

Also another thing if you look over time, with most cultures they would sleep with their children. Its only been in recent decades its deemed bad to sleep with your baby!!!